Psychotherapy aims to provide a confidential space to help you explore whatever you wish to bring and support you in finding your own solutions. It can also be an opportunity to explore your life and experiences and reach a deeper understanding of yourself. This occurs in an atmosphere of safety and respect and offers a space in which you are really listened to and the whole of you is welcomed.
People come to therapy for different reasons, but at the root of most of these is the experience of suffering. Therapy offers us the opportunity to enquire into the nature of our suffering and discover our innate capacity for healing.
Psychotherapy can be long or short term. Regardless, it offers an opportunity to be heard, witnessed and deeply supported, as we learn to tolerate feelings that might have once felt painful, even unbearable whilst opening up to new ways of thinking and being. Doing this can at times feel risky as we enter uncharted and sometimes difficult territory within ourselves. In order to turn towards and tell the truth about our difficulties we can benefit hugely from the support of a therapist.
In therapy, we explore the underlying beliefs, judgements and defences which shape how we experience ourselves and our relationships. This can help us gain insight into how the past continues to influence us in the present.
We all find ways to avoid, distract and numb ourselves in order to block out painful feelings and what might have once been experienced as unbearable. However, what we also end up blocking, is our capacity to feel a sense of aliveness and our innate capacity to give and receive love. A large part of the work involves realising that the defences which may have kept us safe, may now be keeping us stuck in repetitive and self-destructive thinking and behaviour and stopping us from reaching our full potential.
Therapy progresses at your pace, not the therapist’s and is supported in a spirit of enquiry and non-judgement.
Reasons why people seek therapy may include:
Depression and anxiety
Low self esteem
Current or past trauma
Feelings of hopelessness and despair
Loss and bereavement
Chronic or enduring illness
A vague sense of unhappiness or dissatisfaction or a yearning for more depth or meaning in life.
It is by accepting ourselves as we are, that we can allow changes to happen.